Permission To Be Human

While having lunch with my friend Kathy Worm yesterday, she commented, “So often, it comes down to giving yourself permission to be human.”

We’d been chatting about a wide range of topics: balancing work with other creative pursuits, managing stress, the importance of being a good fit with the culture of your organization, and happiness.

She was dead-on. It was the common thread in our conversation.

It’s also one of the hardest parts of being human. Kind of ironic when you think about it … we need to give ourselves to permission to be what we are. (This human thing gets tricky ;-).)

Here’s the thing though. Life is easier when you give yourself the green light to be human.

You will be less than perfect despite your best efforts. You will at times stumble and make a mess. And horror of all horrors, you might even outright fail.

And you know what?

It’s all good. Progress, growth and success are never straight lines rising upwards without a single dip.

Next time you find yourself struggling really listen to your mental chatter. Chances are you’ll hear that you’ve been withholding permission to be human.

Grant it.

It's Not About Time

Stumbled on this gem while looking for something entirely unrelated!

Don’t say you don’t have enough time.  You have exactly the same number of hours per day that were given to Helen Keller, Pasteur, Michaelangelo, Mother Teresea, Leonardo da Vinci, Thomas Jefferson, and Albert Einstein. 
~ Life’s Little Instruction Book, compiled by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

I’m currently doing some personal work on busyness and this is a timely reminder. It’s so very true.

Join the flow of conversation.

How do you feel about time? And if it’s not time that gets in the way, what does?

A Different Way to Do Busy

Today’s blog entry comes from my friend Jill Sockman, owner of Blue Lotus Yoga Studio in Raleigh, NC. I can’t think of a more perfect way to integrate the reality of being busy with the importance of slowing down.

From Jill ….

I’m a bit of a word geek. I love new words, quotes, foreign languages, you name it, I love it all. So I’m always excited to be introduced to a phrase I’ve never heard before. Festina Lente.

This little phrase showed up at the end of an e-mail message from a friend, who is a fellow logophile. Not to be in the dark for a moment, I immediately consulted our ever-present guide Google-ji to find the definition of this little Latin gem:

Make haste slowly. Yes, that’s right. Make Haste Slowly.

How much do I love this little phrase? Let me count the ways. First, it’s got the lovable charm of an oxymoron: hurry up and slow down, already, you might say. And as someone who is regularly in a hurry for absolutely no reason, it’s sound advice.

It is relevant to note that we’re not saying lente lente (though also good advice) and so Festina Lente carries the suggestion that even those things of an urgent nature be seen through with patience and care. This brings to mind my grandfather and his “if you’re going to do something at all, you may as well do it your best” ways. There’s the faint aroma of diligence and patience hidden in the phrase.

But my favorite slice-let of Festina Lente showed up in Wikipedia, “Work is best done in a state of flow in which one is fully engaged by the task and there is no sense of time passing.” Ahhhhh…The Zone. In the moment. The eternal now. The timeless space in which we are at one with the task at hand, moving with Grace. The goal of our practice is this savoring, fully present place where we are so completely right here that we miss nothing. Yes, please.

As you move through your December, and its parties, travels, shopping trips, visits, hurries and stresses, Festina Lente, friends. Festina Lente.

copyright 2010, Jill Sockman, Blue Lotus Yoga

Walk Your Path

“Life is what we make it, always has been, always will be.” ~ Grandma Moses

As we approach the New Year take time to reflect on how you want to live your life.

And then instead of the typical New Year’s resolutions, resolve to make choices that align with the way you want to live your life.

It probably won’t be the path of least resistance, but it will put you on the path that’s right for you.

There’s no better way to start a New Year!

The Power of Ten Minutes

Last Saturday I got to spend several hours with a group of wonderful women who joined me for Goals to Reality: On and Off the Mat. It’s one of a series of yoga / life workshops my friend Anne Robie and I have been leading for the last year. (Very fun!)

Afterwards, one of the participants shared that the reason she’d taken time from her very busy schedule to come was this phrase from the program description:

Think you’re too busy to come?

“The degree to which you do not believe you have time to spend even ten minutes sitting quietly is the degree to which you desperately need to spend ten minutes sitting quietly.”  ~ Donna Farhi, Author and yoga teacher

The payback on those ten minutes is huge.

You …

  • Nourish your mind, body and spirit
  • Reduce your mental chatter
  • Stimulate your creativity
  • Make better choices on how you spend the other 23 hours and 50 minutes in your day
  • Get bursts of insight
  • Lower your stress

And a whole lot more.

From just ten minutes a day?

Yup.

What will you say no to today so you can say yes to sitting quietly for ten minutes?